Love is in the Air!!
January 10, 2019 7:47 pm
Kids Need Love Too —
Whereas Gary Chapman’s treatise regarding the language of love was intended for the spousal relationship, the ‘languages’ –
Words of affirmation
Quality time
Gifting
Acts of service
Physical touch —
can easily be applied to the parent-child relationship. Just like adults, some children are bi-lingual. Give these behaviors a test drive, and see how your child (or your spouse) responds to your efforts.
Words of Affirmation – praise or encouragement – is extremely important to all of us. When offered sincerely and appropriately, spirits are lifted and confidence can soar!
Quality Time spent is typically enjoyable and beneficial as this can be an opportunity to play, share, train, and reinforce good habits. But be sure that this is primarily an enjoyable event.
Gifting can truly be a unique skill, and the proper gift can provide years of fun, memories, and conversation.
Acts of Service typically occurs in the form of doing something for someone. Helping a child with a tedious chore – cutting the lawn, for example – will not only show love, but sets an example for the child. Children really do live what they learn!
Physical Touch – in the form of a hug, or a gentle touch – is a show of affection that can be a special blessing in a moment of joy (or sorrow), and younger children are typically glad to receive this type of attention. However, one must be wise and respectful, and there are important boundaries with physical touch.
Don’t be afraid to properly show your love to your child! Our children need to learn how to receive appropriate expressions of love, and – more importantly – how to exhibit these behaviors as they grow and mature into adulthood.
Ferdinand Yates, MD
Woodstock Pediatric Medicine